The Pain Of Experience

‘Write what you know’ isn’t that what they say? But what if what you know hurts too much?

I’ve really struggled with a couple of prompts recently ……too close for comfort lol

There’s been a lot of talk about Adele recently, due to all her Grammy awards (and Brit awards). I really don’t know how she does it. Every time she sings one of those songs the memories of how she felt when she wrote it (or how she felt at the time of the break up) must come flooding back. How do you step back from that? Distance yourself? Sorry, for those of you who don’t know Adeles album “21” was written about a painful breakup of her relationship.

Songwriters are no different to writers. Most songs are a short story, in fact you can use songs to inspire short stories, but that’s a whole new post.

We’re told constantly as writers to push ourselves, delve into places where it does hurt, tackle difficult areas, difficult subjects…..but I’m not sure I want to. I know if you’ve been through a particular event in your life you can draw on first hand experience to write about it. It will be better written from experience than say, someone who’s only trying to express those emotions, who hasn’t actually experienced them.

I try not to avoid certain subjects when I write, I try to give everything a go, but, some themes just affect me more than others, perhaps I’m just not ready to expose myself to those emotions, quite yet πŸ˜‰

Yesterday’s prompt was ‘in a foreign country’ and I ended up writing the beginning of a story about 2 girls on holiday at one of the girls uncles house. I’m thinking that he’s a real nasty bit of work, although he comes across as a really nice man to start with πŸ˜‰ Today’s prompt is write about a long bus ride but I’m not sure when I’ll get it done…..I’m off to the Pocket Novel workshop today, and nooooo, I didn’t get chance to actually read one lol

6 thoughts on “The Pain Of Experience

    • It is hard hon, definitely. I remember someone saying to me once that it’s our job as writers to write uplifting stories for our readers, so that they come away with a sense of satisfaction. Perhaps that should be true or the writer too lol πŸ˜‰



  1. Thought provoking Vikkie and yes there are things tucked away in our memories that are difficult to visit let alone confine to print. I firmly believe though, that those bad memories are what makes us all into what we become. We can use our own experiences not only to develop the characteristics of imaginary ones but also ourselves. What has been has made us what we are today.


  2. Vikki,

    I totally understand about writing about things that still hurt, however, why not write them down for yourself and see if you can kill those demons and maybe at the end, either set fire to them or just leave it in a safe place, until you are able to re-read and amend πŸ™‚ x


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